Well things are at a slower pace these days, but in a good way. Definitely not stagnant, and eyes are on the road I’m driving. No cruise control, I’m driving this rig. Working some things out, but feel like good progress in the last year.
Anyway, I was thinking about relationships, and the course they run. Whether short term or long term, there is that exciting period at the beginning where you are discovering things about each other. Everyone loves that part. Then there’s the deeper level where you really start finding out about the important things to you and your partner. This is a make or break point. Well, I am well into this with my wife, and GDG (other side of world girl). 16 years with wife and entering a phase of really listening to who she is today, not how I remember her. About a month and a half with GDG. I must say time is not relative to the amount and number of issues we have discussed at length. There is an openess and honesty that we are working to protect, and remain open to each other.
In the beginning with GDG, we would both get really anxious if didn’t hear from the other, or if we misunderstood something. Now, there’s more of a calm acceptance of each other, and that our families come first. It was getting to this calm place that made me think about my marriage, and how many issues that I’ve forgotten about now that had to be worked out between my wife and I. When things calm down, you forget about all these wild feelings and you have to get on with living your life while sharing it.