Be Thankful for Something Everyday

Repost of something I wrote a couple years ago that seems relavent to the moment…

Deadlines, kids, continuing education, extra-curricular activities, volunteer duties…The list goes on and on, and most of us are operating at a break-neck pace to keep up with the demands placed on us on a weekly basis.  I have recently had a period of down-time, and thought it would be worthwhile to post on being thankful for the things in life that may get taken for granted or are not fully realized, as it is so easy to do when things get busy.  When you really think about it, there may be things you enjoy, that you have no idea how much you enjoy until they are not in your life, or it may just be recognition of the things that are already in your life that give deep pleasure and peace just in realizing they are already there.

For example, in my neighborhood, some of the neighbors like to sit outside and talk while the kids and pets play.  I am not a hugely social person, but after several weeks where we were not able to get together, I found out how much I enjoyed being around others, and it really surprised me that such a simple thing could add so much to my life.  I had an hour long, meaningful conversation with one neighbor, where our prior exchanges had been “Hi.” and “Bye” for years.  I am always thankful to be in the presence of others, even if I am not directly involved in all of the conversation.

Each morning that you crack your eyes and get to start a new day is a gift and a purpose.  Aware of it or not, there is some reason you are still on this earth-embrace it.

When you return home from a horrendous rush hour safely, that is a gift to be thankful for.

If you have small children who come bolting through the door and start talking, laughing, crying, whatever non-stop, that is a gift.  It may seem like an interruption at times, but is there really anything more important at that moment?  How long will it be before they will be slinking in the door to avoid any contact with their “embarrassing” parents, and you will have to inject yourself into their life to remain a part of it?

Every day, we hear stories on the news that are shocking, terrible or downright scary.  At the start of each day, taking the time to be thankful for only one of the personal gifts in your life will focus your mind on the good stuff, and allow you to be more effective-even if it feels like you are going through hell at the moment.

I am not licensed or accredited in any way.  I am not a writer, and do not have perfect English.   Someone who knows me described my intelligence as varying degrees of genius and “dumb as a stone”.  So call it my disclaimer, but hopefully someone who reads this will surprise themself as I did, when they slow down and reflect on some of the subtle joys already in their “everyday life”.

Fresh out

When I started this blog, it was about exploring the personal truth of my life and some of the situations that have come up recently.  I have tried to remain positive, but today I just need to get something off my chest, so scroll to the next post if you are looking for some inspiration.

I was about to start a post called “Fuck It”…I’ve been trying to remain positive and all that, but tired of looking for the sunny side of the turd at the moment.  Everyone in my house EXPECTS, but does not show any appreciation, and I about out of “Give a Fucks”.

Part of the frustration is that my wife is either out with the kids or on the phone many times when we could be talking.  Yesterday, there were some leftovers in the fridge that I ate.  Those were the ones she “looking so forward to eating.”  Did she say anything to anyone?  Nope!  I offerred to go out and get her something, and it was one of those moments she did not want to be helped.  She just went upstairs and took a nap.  I went to the store and got some things that I thought she might like to make for her.  When she woke up, she did not want it, and asked for the same food that I offerred to go out and get before she took a nap.

I’m so over it that I started looking at how much I could get a place of my own for, and what other jobs I could pickup for extra money.  At least to know what my options are.  Life is too fucking short.  I’m about ready to start looking for lawyers to see what kind of a financial strap I would be looking at with divorce.  I just can’t see another 20 years of living this way.  Think I’d rather be by myself than putting up with all this.  As far as the kids, I will support them.  One thing I would teach them is to get the fuck out of a relationship if someone is making you miserable through their own apathy.   They may not see this now, but I know they feel tense at times with some of the exchanges between my wife and I.

I don’t care if the whole world wants to side with my wife.  The world is not living in my shoes.  Am I exaggerating the whole situation in my head?  Maybe so, but perception is reality in many cases.  I know I’m a good person at heart.  I’m beginning to wonder if one can experience personal freedom in a long term relationship…this coming from someone who’s been married for 16 years…Maybe just waking up?

I know freedom is not free, and that it’s not all about me.  All I know if that I need some joy in my life sooner than later.  I do not intend to become someone who ends up depressed trying to fix a hopeless situation.  Some things cannot or don’t want to be fixed.  If anyone who has been following this from the beggining has any deep probing insights they want to share, now would be the time.